Part 5: Fallopian Tube Perfusion – Intrauterine Insemination (IUI)

Read Part 1: Our Infertility Journey – Where It All Began
Read Part 2: Our Honeymoon – Babymaking time…Or Not?
Read Part 3: Semen Analysis – Strict Kruger – Abnormal Sperm – Now What?
Read Part 4: Selecting A Reproductive Endocrinologist

September 2008

I took Clomid for 5 straight days and was monitored (around day 14) at the doctor to check for follicles, 2 good ones and maybe another – making 3!

We were inseminated (Fallopian Tube Perfusion) after a trigger shot of HCG and then a two-week waiting game. (Thank god one week was spent in Hawaii, this definitely lessened stress.) I was instructed to do a home pregnancy test on Monday morning, I did on the way back from Hawaii in the restroom at LAX – it was a BFN (negative!!!!!) We actually thought this would work the first round…why, I guess because we were so incredibly hopeful. Okay, on to round 2!

November 2008

I began preparation for this insemination (Fallopian Tube Perfusion) the same way, Clomid for 5 straight days at the beginning of my cycle and then doctor visits to check for follicles and size. Sadly, for Mike this time around, Clomid really took a toll on my emotions – I guess I was preparing early for Halloween…what was that I wanted to be, a witch? Only one follicle this time around and the magic insemination day was Halloween – wouldn’t this be our perfect little treat?

The two-week wait seemed to go much faster this time. I have to admit neither of us were very hopeful, and only having one follicle was a bit depressing. Like we suspected, another BFN, negative!!!

We both decided at that point to proceed with IVF. After the negative test, I call Dr. M’s office to request a consultation for Mike and I – we were definitely ready to proceed with bigger and better things.

Read Part 6: Our First IVF Attempt – Ovarian Stimulation Time!

Part 4: Selecting A Reproductive Endocrinologist

Read Part 1: Our Infertility Journey – Where It All Began
Read Part 2: Our Honeymoon – Babymaking time…Or Not?
Read Part 3: Semen Analysis – Strict Kruger – Abnormal Sperm – Now What?

August 2008

We were so excited and nervous at the same time for our consultation with Dr. R, who was at a fertility clinic very near to our house. Mike and I met at home right after work and then drove together to the appointment. We were very impressed when we walked in to the clinic and the staff was quite complementary toward us, always a big plus! Little did we know, but Mike’s urologist didn’t fax his test results as we had hoped. It wasn’t a problem, because they were able to fax then while we were waiting to been seen by the doctor. After waiting for a brief time we were called back and met with Dr. R in this office.

We sat down in his office and all around him were beautiful pictures of his family. He immediately set Mike’s paperwork in front of us. Right then and there, I thought he is going to tell us that we didn’t need to be there, I was already preparing an answer in my head like, “My OB-GYN sent us here.” Okay, were we surprised, he said that he recommended a procedure for us called IVF with ICSI. He went into great detail explaining it, I didn’t need an explanation at all…all I needed were Kleenex. Tears began to roll down my face, as we never expected to hear this. He went into more detail about why we needed IVF and he concluded that due to Mike’s SKM (Kruger Strict Morphology) results, IVF with ICSI would give us the highest success rates for conceiving. As you can imagine, our minds are going a mile a minute at this time. A few more tears kept rolling down my cheeks and all I really wanted at this point was for him to hand me a damn tissue…never happened!

We were taken into another room where Dr. R did a pelvic ultrasound and everything appeared normal. We went back into his office and he explained a few more things to us, after that he sent us to see an IVF coordinator as well as a finance person.

After making an appointment for an IVF informational class, we left his office, shocked, stunned, sad, and confused….

We decided after much thought that it might be in our best interest to get a second opinion. It wasn’t that we didn’t trust the doctor, but I don’t think Mike or I felt there was a good connection with Dr. R. Considering the fact that we would potentially be spending thousands and thousands of dollars and a great deal of time with a doctor, we wanted it to be someone that we were comfortable with.

We made an appointment for a week or two later with Dr. M, he was the doctor who performed my HSG earlier in the summer.

We didn’t quite have the same excitement heading in to meet him as we did with the first reproductive endocrinologist. We now realized that this baby making process wasn’t always pleasant, and that it may not be as simple as we initially thought it to be.

We sat down with Dr. M and the same thing happened, I began crying. Something was different this time though, he stopped what he was saying and handed me a box of tissue. At this point, I wasn’t so concerned about what he had to say; I knew that he was the doctor for us. The simple act of handing me the tissue assured me that this man had a heart and he knew the emotion involved.

This consultation went much better than the first, and we were definitely prepared with more questions. Dr. M didn’t feel that we needed to begin right off the bat with IVF, but felt maybe a few tries of FTP (Fallopian Tube Perfusion) a type of IUI would be a good place to start. This is what we wanted to hear, no pun intended, but we needed to take “baby steps”. He too, took me into a room and did an examination and some blood work. The best news was that there was a possibility (depending on my blood work) that I might be able to begin the Clomid the following night.

Dr. M’s plan for FTP was to put me on a higher dose of Clomid to stimulate multiple follicles and then right around the time of ovulation I would be injected with a “washed” dose of Mike’s semen. We knew that this wouldn’t yield the highest results that IVF would, but it was definitely a great place to start!

We were able to begin the Clomid the following night.

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Read Part 5: Fallopian Tube Perfusion – Intrauterine Insemination (IUI)

Will IVF Work For Me?

This is most likely the #1 burning question for people going through in vitro fertilization (IVF). Most of us realize that IVF might not be successful on the first try. It might not work on the second try. Sometimes…the third time is a charm but it still does not work as planned. The one thing that we as IVFers would love to know is, “Will IVF Work For Me?”.

The sad but true answer is: IVF is not guaranteed. IVF does give hope for us who have fertility issues with no other options in sight.

IVF is definitely a numbers game so keeping a positive attitude is essential in surviving the IVF process. Getting pregnant is a miracle in itself and even though we are going through IVF, a little luck is still needed along with the fascinating medical treatments available to us today.

Use IVF to grow your relationship with your significant other and let nature take its course when it’s your time.

Best of luck for all going through IVF.

Waiting On IVF Results – The Stress of In Vitro

After going through an unsuccessful IVF cycle, there are many things that run through your head that are hard to grasp. That being said, one of the hardest parts of IVF and fertility treatments in general is playing the waiting game. It’s hard enough going through the physical demands but when you are forced to wait for results and answers, your mental state of mind takes a toll.

My wife and I are currently waiting to start our second IVF cycle. This cycle will be a Frozen Embryo Transfer, commonly referred to as a FET). But, before that happens she has to have her period. Then she has to test negative for HCG again. After that, she will get on the pill to regulate her cycle. Then, after all this has taken place, we get to experience our first frozen embryo transfer. Included in the anxiety of this “wait and see” game is waiting to find out how many of our embryos withstand the thawing process which is a whole other set of stress.

We were told our second IVF cycle would be around the end of February but due to Wendi’s irregular menstral cycles, the exact time is anyones guess.

We experienced the 2 week waiting game once the embryos were transferred in our first IVF cycle. This was extremely painful as it was our first time and we were hoping for the best. We found out on New Year’s Eve that our first IVF attempt had failed.

Our next waiting game began the second after we head the bad news. Wendi’s first question to the doctor was, “When can we try our second IVF attempt?” It’s now February 6th and it seems like a decade ago since we finished our last IVF cycle. The waiting seems to cause just as much stress and anxiety as the actual treatment…maybe even worse. But then again, I’m just the husband and “supplier” so I don’t have to go through all of the injections, meds, and the procedure itself.

We just want to send a message to all of those who are in the same situation or have possibly not been in our shoes yet. Hang in there. It starts to become routine and part of your lifestyle, and before you know it, your life without infertility seems like a speck in the far off distance.

If we could be assured that one…just one….IVF cycle worked, the IVF waiting game would be a little less stressful. But there are no guarantees so we keep playing the game until our day comes.

Unethical IVF and Fertility Treatments

For those of us who have to go through the stress of IVF and infertility, it’s hard to take in what happened last week when a California woman gave birth to octuplets…after already having 6 other children and despite being a single mom and unemployed. Most of us who have gone through or are going through fertility treatments would be grateful for one baby. This is a purely selfish act on her part and one that should lead a doctor to the unemployment line.

More disturbing is the fact that neither the doctor or the mom stopped this from happening when they both had the chance. It sounds to me as if they were both seeking out national media spotlight.

  1. Did they once think of the lives of the babies when making these decisions? It doesn’t sound like it.
  2. Did the doctor’s ask the woman to selectively reduce? Yes.
  3. When she told them no, did they refuse to provide treatment? No.

The major problem here is that you have two parties that acted unethical and has now caused a national scene in regards to the ethics of IVF and fertility treatment.

This type of incident makes it much harder on the doctors and patients who are going through the entire fertility treatment process with ethics in mind. It gives reproductive technology a bad name when in fact it’s the only option for some to become pregnant.


1.) Ban the doctor from practicing medicine ever again.

2.) Ignore the California woman completely. All she wants is media attention and a $1 million contract for a reality show. She cares less about the miracle of life and took it for granted. Time to get a job lady and suffer the consequences instead of feeding off of taxpayers money.