Looking Back At Infertility

Man, 2008 seems like a lifetime ago. We were just starting. A newly married couple, ready to take on the world. We were into our jobs. We were having fun. We had a plan for life. That big plan was to raise a family. Not one of those HUGE families but a nice little family. We both agreed on 2 or 3 kids. We were never exactly sure and knew that it wasn’t totally up to us but knew that number was fairly close and we agreed on it. So, after we were married we went on our honeymoon. It was GREAT…Lake Como, Italy. What’s not to love? Water, mountains, wine, pizza! It was awesome. We just assumed that we’d “get the job done!”

WOW! Quite an eye opener. Fast forward 7 years. W-H-A-T A J-O-U-R-N-E-Y!!! After several fresh IVF cycles and several FETs, we have two wonderful daughters, 5 years old and almost 2 years old. Blessings.

They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. That’s sure true. I really think we handled it quite well. We had ups and downs, good days and bad days but honestly, for all of the stress we (Wendi) went through, I thought we did well. Maybe that’s because we ended up with two beautiful daughters. The outcome might have been different if we were unable to have children. The stresses of infertility are great. They over-consume your life. They fill your every thought. They wear you down. I think it proves our marriage can handle the battle field when things get tough. It really did. Thank you Wendi.

I’m not really sure where I’m trying to go with this post. Looking back 7 years I say WOW, that happened to us. We were that couple that went to lunch when we were going through IVF, only to see 3 or 4 pregnant ladies. It almost seemed like they were flaunting it. That wasn’t the case. We have no idea if they went through the same trials of life that we did.

I thought the same thing when we were pregnant and went out. What if some poor woman or couple is sitting there jealous of us because we are pregnant. They have no idea what we went through. It’s unfair to judge. It really is.

Would I take any of it back? Absolutely not. Call me an idiot. We have Kate and Molly for a reason. I always think to myself. Infertility is the best and worst thing that has ever happened to us.

Always have hope…

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